I know that phrase sounds funny but let me explain… you know all those things that people say you SHOULD be doing to be society’s version of your best self like “You should workout 5 days a week. You should walk at least 10k steps a day. You should meditate daily. You should be on a diet. You should watch what you’re eating. You shouldn’t watch too much TV. You should read more. You shouldn’t be lazy. You should be a morning person.” The list could go on and on and on! I don’t know about you but these SHOULDS stress me out and I’ve had enough (and I bet you have too!). Below I’m sharing 3 tips on how you can stop SHOULDING yourself!
Quit comparing yourself
Stop caring about what others think or want from you and ask yourself what will make YOU happy! When you stop listening to others you’re able to instead focus on what brings you joy and what motivates and inspires you. Ultimately, cultivating your happiness will bring you into the best version of yourself.
Create a list of Joys
Make a list of things that bring you joy/happiness! And then look at it whenever you feel the SHOULDS creeping in on you! If eating ice cream for breakfast or as a snack or before dinner makes you happy every once in a while then do it! That’s why I love Halo Top ice cream not only does it taste delicious but it leaves me with that feel-good feeling that lasts! Why feel guilt or shame about what brings you joy! Step into your authentic ice cream loving self!
Own your life choices
Stand in your power and do not let others make you feel guilty. I’m not a morning person, I’ve never been one. I thrive at night. I used to struggle with the fact that I’m not a morning person. Everywhere you look and everything you read about successful entrepreneurs says they are morning people. But I’ve decided being a morning person doesn’t bring me joy. For me, sleeping in until 830am most days makes me a happier human and a more productive one as well. And just because I choose to sleep in does not mean I’m not going to be a successful entrepreneur.
I hope these tips help you to stop SHOULDING yourself! Which tip do you find to be the most helpful? Life’s too short to not wear the dress, to not wear the bikini, to not eat ice cream in bed or before dinner, and to be on a diet all the time.
I would love to know about what shoulds you are currently battling in your life right now + how you are overcoming them in the comments below!